Usually gays tend to look more feminine and lesbians tend to look more masculine, so if somebody is "in the middle" it makes sense that this person is bisexual or asexual. I'm not Ace so maybe it doesn't entirely apply to me, but anytime my friends talk to me about girls I dismiss them and I get it, but more in a joking manner.
I wish I could just take a few gay assumptions off all your hands. No one ever guesses that I'm not heteroromantic. I know some heterosexuals that aren't masculine either.! Yeah know that feeling when it comes to those who know me.
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Made a joke recently when a few guys in work were saying they need to pick up their wives from theor work night outs on the same night. I said something like "We'll i would say the same but I don't have a girlfriend, nevermind a wife" in a humerous tone. Next thing I know one of them sends me a link to a site where I could apply for a dating show on TV they don't know I'm ace so took it as the joke they intended.
All the time. In fact, most people I know probably assume that I'm gay. I'm pretty open about saying that I like women I do, just not in a sexual sense and that I'm usually not particularly interested in men. It probably doesn't help that I don't dress very feminine, wear my hair short and don't wear much makeup. Which is ridiculous - one of my good friends is gay and she usually looks like she just stepped off the red carpet, even when we're just getting ice cream.
I don't mind, though. I'm not hiding my orientation, but explaining it can be tedious, particularly when people aren't really listening. My lesbian co worker who really is a nice person seems to be crushing hard on me I'm FAB and it's just awkward. I guess i do something that makes people assume i'm gay. Wich i'm not. Weird that people automatically assume you are gay because you aren't interested in dating..
Sure, I don't think all asexuals are on the autistic spectrum, I don't even think the majority of asexuals are on the spectrum but I do think that the level of correlation is much more higher than with neurotypicals, there are even polls in this web that show that the percentage of aces in the spectrum is in double digits. And we should add the amount of people who is not officially diagnosed, because many autistic women never become oficially diagnosed.
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I've had people assume I'm gay quite often but really nothing about me says I'm gay, sorta sucks but what ever people are just gonna assume until proven otherwise. I'm often mistaken for a man, but once people notice my great butt I'm guessing the next thought is "really butch lesbian". I'm also not really interested in dating anyone but since people only ask whether I think men are attractive in that way and never about women, it could come across as being gay, I guess.
Although I fall prey to it myself, it really does bother me that people have such strict and rigorous visual codes for identities. Straight people dye their hair too! Some boys like wearing makeup and dresses! I just like short hair and jeans with proper pockets men's jeans , but that's a visual code for a sexual orientation? Give me a break!!! Additionally, I'd like to point out that the possibility of experiencing attraction to the same gender is MUCH more common knowledge than the possibility of A girl once assumed I was gay because we were left alone by mutual friends in a poor attempt matchmaking it seems and I didn't try to flirt with her and barely talked at all, go figure.
I originally thought my partner to be gay. Although I'm pretty open about liking folks of all genders when I'm comfortable, so the assumptions get snuffed out pretty quick. While reading this thread I recalled how I sat in a car with two acquaintances on our way to a bowling hall and the topic of relationships came up, so at some point they asked me how it looked like on my end.
The conversation developed and while I don't recall it all in detail anymore, I said something among the lines of "Nah, I'm not interested in that" as a reply to something I think dating girls? I'm really not sure anymore and the question "But are you sure aren't just… you know, gay or something? I laughed at that and just shook my head and said something like "No, definitely not, I'd know if I was".
That's the part I remember the best. I think I left them even more puzzled after this reply. In retrospect… I didn't really know much about asexuality then, I think it was half a year later when I stumbled across it, but that was quite an ace moment already and seen from a more "educated" perspective, quite a clear case I guess.
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Yeah, some people have assumed that since I don't want to date men I must be gay, eventhough I don't want to date women either. A lot of people thought I was a lesbian in denial for all the time that I was single. The people who really matter are the ones who know and understand where I'm coming from anyway.
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Your sexual orientation does not determine whether or not you're a man. You can be asexual and be a man, and there is absolutely nothing contradictory about that. Again, to be perfectly clear: You can be asexual even if you can get an erection. You can be asexual even if you masturbate. You can be asexual even if you are a man. A lot of people doubt that they're asexual because of something they do or have done. Usually, this doubt is silly. Asexuality is about attraction, not action.
In other words, it's how you feel, not what you do. If the information here sounds like it describes you, then you might be asexual. Don't worry if you're not completely sure at this point. You can think about it for as long as you like. And don't worry if you don't fit neatly into every little thing I wrote here: There's no one "correct" way to be asexual. You might even find that related things like gray-asexuality or demisexuality describe you better. There are many places online where you can learn more about asexuality, and most social networks have a group of aces who are often more than willing to answer any questions you might have or to just listen to what you have to say.
However, only you can decide whether or not you're asexual, because you know how you feel, and no one else does. Most importantly, remember that you are not alone. There are others like you out there, even if you haven't seen them yet. At least 1 out of every people is asexual, which is a lot bigger of a number than it sounds when you start to think about it.
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You can be asexual even if you think someone is good looking. It's possible to think that someone is cute or beautiful without being sexually attracted to them, in the same way it's possible to think a puppy is cute or a painting is beautiful. You can be asexual even if you're dating or are married.